52 Wise and Useful Tips and Suggestions to Keep a Healthy and Happy Marriage. - Getting Closer t

Binding ourselves to someone we love is romantic. Come to think of it, if a couple get marriage around 30 and they live up to 90, they have to spend 60 years together. That’s amazing and challenging. The vow to stay together through the good and hard times. Nevertheless, people change so as the circumstances.

40 Tips To Keep a Healthy and Happy Marriage.

1. To be friends rather than lovers from time to time, such as once a week.  ★

 What’s the difference between partners and friends? Did we demand too much for our partners? Remember to communicate with our partner as friends by showing them the ultimate respect and tenderness.

Back to the role of friendship can be a good reminder for the couples.

2. Recharge yourself by planning trips to somewhere alone or with friends from occasionally.

3. Never exhaust yourself by playing an ideal wife or lover.

Make time for yourself every single day by doing something you love or entertaining.

Recharging yourself is necessary. Satisfy yourself by doing what you love will ensure your relationship interesting, balanced and strong in the long run. An Exhausted mother or depressed wife could never have a happy marriage forever.

4. Accumulate happy and satisfying moments with your partner.

5. Novelty is one of the best nutritions for relationships.

Doing new things together with your partner by exploring a new hobby or places together. Learning a language together or getting involved in new activities. Every relationship started with new experiences. Different experiences will bring sparkles and intensify the emotions and bring energy to the relationship.

6. Compromise can never be avoided in any relationships.

Recognize what is worth fighting for and what’s not. What is unnegotiable to you? What’s your boundary? Compromising should never be one-sided in a relationship. Everything has limits. There should be some dos and dos in a relationship and you guys better set up the rules right before you dating so as to avoid any unnecessary arguments.

7. A happy marriage takes efforts.

8. Re-evaluate what you desire most in the marriage.

Remind yourself of why you married this person.

9. Make an album to keep the photos of the happy moments you share together.

It will be the nutrient of the relationship.

10. Respect for each other. Do not make your love arbitrary.

Showing respect is the basic politeness to our lovers.

11. Do not let jealousy damage your relationship.

Have confidence in your partner.

12. Do not undermine your lovers’ self-esteem by constantly giving them uninvited unconstructive negative suggestions. 

13. Give your partner full attention if they demand. Prioritize Your Partner.

Marriage comes first. If you want to keep your marriage working well, you need to prioritize it.

14. Don’t judge and do not criticize your partner’s dreams or career.

15. Reevaluate the relationship together per month or something.

Ask yourself: What you like in your partner? How important she/he is to you? Am I happy and fulfilled in this relationship? Is it what I am looking for?

16. Never bring up the old argument again and again. Solve it once and for all.

Do not live in the past. Forgive the mistakes of your partner and he will do the same to you. But you should never keep a relationship with a domestic violence abuser.

As assets by Elizabeth Gilbert “You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.”

17. Take good care of your health and appearance out of self-love and self-respect.

Think about the first time when you met your partner. Would you able to show him your face without brushing your teeth? I’ve seen too many couples stop dressing up themselves after they get married. If a person stops dressing themselves, that’s a warning sign indeed. Keep yourself physically attractive can make you happier as well. 

18. Do not use hostile sentences to those you love.

It’s never a good idea to start a sentence with: “You know it’s always been your problem that…”You always…” or “You never…” Sentences like these are essentially hostile in tone, which are more likely to trigger conflicts, blame or fight. Do not excuse yourself for bad communication skills. Practice makes perfect. Practice your communication skills if you want to have a happier healthier relationship.

Deal with negative emotions positively and rationally. Be aware of your negative emotions and solve it rationally. 

19.Appreciate the little things your partner did for you.

• Cherish the time to be alone.

If you are not able to have fun with yourself, there might be something wrong with you that you fail to find joy alone.

• Be an Attentive Listener

This is a universal tip for effective and healthy communication. Everyone desire to be heard and respected. Be an attentive lister is an easy tip to show your respect to your partner.

• Share

share something about your daily lives, including haring your fears, anxiety and expectations.

• Get attuned to your partner’s moods and needs.

You’d better know what would she act when she is tired or mad?

• Avoid fighting in front of others.
• Support each other in hard times. Actions speak louder than words.
• Learn to grow together

In order to grow together, you must be able to learn from each other and conquering your fears of challenges.

• Appreciate the little things your partner does for you.

And don’t forget to thank them by offering something in return, such as offering a big meal.

• Maintain realistic expectations

If you expect to be romantic as he used to for the next decades, you may be disappointed.

• Give love first. It’s scary but worth it.

Remember what they say: it’s not what you have that fulfills you, it’s what you give.

• Don’t work hard for a perfect marriage

Shake off your idea toward an ideal married life. The idea of “perfect marriage” might leave you frustrated. If you expect to immediately agree on the big decision all the time. That’s not happening. If you expect to have a lifetime passionate sex life. That’s unrealistic.

• Don’t compare your marriage to people around you.
• Don’t let disagreements cripple the intimacy between your partner.

Disagreements over big or small decisions will happen and it’s normal and universal.

Couples who are able to find a way to communicate the differences and solve it peacefully will have a healthy happy marriage in the long term. Thus, communication skills matters. Practice expressing your thoughts properly.

• Make discussion and plans together, either big or small.

When to have the baby? Where to spend Christmas and New Year?  Where to celebrate the birthday and next Valentine’s day?

34. Make touch, hugs and kisses a daily routine
Hugging and kissing are the common and natural way of showing our affection.
Touch is a powerful move. Touch is able to comfort people’s heart, which sends a message that you want to get closer to them.
35. Celebrate the special days.

36. Arrange dating routine after getting married. It’s necessary. ★
37. Try to keep your phone off when you’re alone with your spouse. ★
39. Invest time and surprises into your marriage. Set Budget for a trip every year.★
Do not share your vacation to some else who is insignificant to you, especially your friends of the opposite sex. Do not test your partner’s trust to you. 
40. Remove temptations from your social circle. Surround yourself with friends and family members who will strengthen your marriage.
41. Do not focus on who is right or wrong in every argument but focus on making solutions.
42. Never tell lies to your partner. You have the rights to keep things inside. But never tell lies, it can easily ruin everything in a moment. Lies break years of trust, and trust is the foundation of any relationship. It is said that secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
43. When you’ve made a mistake, be brave enough to make apologies and seek forgiveness.
44. Never criticize their dreams or life expectations. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who takes away their hopes.
45. Always wear your wedding ring.
Wedding rings have symbolic meanings. Always wear your wedding ring shows your concern to the marriage.
46. Do not turn yourself into a nagging person. If he fails to change old bad habits, you need to figure out another method rather than repeating the same thing. Also, never say something mean to your spouse. Never hurt the one you deeply care.
47. You’d better be a lazy happy wife than a diligent angry wife and vice versa. ★★
48. Do not split everything 50/50. It breaks the intimacy of any relationship. It’s a lovely thing to take care of someone you love.★

49. Happiness is the most important ingredients to strengthen a happy marriage.

50.Learning new things together with your partner.

51. Figure out what can give both of you a higher degree of satisfaction in marriage with your partner and make adjustment or blueprints.

52. Be his or her best faithful friend.

Happy long-term marriage couples treat their partner as the most important person in life. No exceptions. Friendship solidifies romantic relationships in marriage.

53.If he/she is very important to you, Forgive more. Forget more. (Violence is unforgivable. Never. )

54.Build connections outside of marriage.

For most couples, family first. But, it’s good to have connections outside of marriage to bring more energy into the relationship.

Bottom line: Successful happy marriages are full of caring, respect, lovely little surprises and satisfaction. Harris et al. adopted a research-based definition of friendship for purposes of their study as ‘‘a close attachment relationship that includes mutual attractiveness, liking (but not necessarily love), intimate self-disclosure, and support.’’

A good communication ability helps two individuals to develop deeper emotions. Intimate self-disclosure and mental support from both parties indeed help a marriage life to blossom.

Apply these principles to your relationship, and your marriage life will full of miracles and blessings in the next decades.