在《我的前半生》中「老幹部」靳東飾演的賀涵情商高？來看看高情商的12種表現吧！

要在現代社會中生存並出人頭地，高情商往往比高智商更重要。高情商不僅能讓你職場得意，好友成群，還能幫你趨利避害，保持身心健康，擁有成功和幸福的人生。近日熱播的電視劇《我的前半生》中，「老幹部」靳東飾演的賀涵就是個高情商的典型例子（當然他也有高智商）。那麼，高情商的人都有哪些表現呢？

豐富的情感辭彙

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling "bad," emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel "irritable," "frustrated," "downtrodden," or "anxious."

高情商的人之所以可以掌控自身的情緒是因為他們能理解這些情緒，並可以用豐富的情感辭彙來描述它們。當許多人僅僅用簡單的辭彙例如「不好」來描述自身的情緒時，高情商的人能夠指出他們所感覺到的是「急躁」，「沮喪」，「壓抑」還是「不安」。

你使用情感類辭彙越精確，就能越確切地了解自己內心的情緒，這些情緒產生的原因以及應對方法。

懷有一顆好奇心

It doesn't matter if they're introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ.

無論是內向型還是外向型的人，高情商者都會對身邊的人感到好奇。這種好奇是源於同理心，是高情商的重要表現。

擁抱改變

Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness.

高情商的人是靈活多變並能隨機應變的。他們知道害怕改變會麻痹他們並極大地威脅他們的成功與幸福。

不易動怒

If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it's difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.

如果你對自己有充分的了解，他人的言語與舉動是很難讓你動怒的。高情商的人都很自信並且心胸開闊，所以臉皮也就不會那麼薄。

懂得如何拒絕

Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. When it's time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as "I don』t think I can" or "I'm not certain." Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

對於許多人來說，說「不」的確是一項對自控力的挑戰。當該說「不」的時候，高情商的人會避免使用「我覺得我不行」或「我不確定」等這類的短語。對新的承諾說「不」會讓你遵守現有的承諾，並讓你有機會成功履行承諾。

不計較錯誤

Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.

高情商的人會和犯過的錯誤保持距離，但也不會遺忘它們。

付出且不求回報

Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.

高情商的人會與他人建立良好的人際關係，因為他們隨時隨地都在為他人著想。

不記仇

The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. When the threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when the threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.

帶有仇恨的負面情緒實際上是一種壓力反應。當威脅即將來臨的時候，這種反應對你的生存至關重要。但當威脅已經遠離的時候，你仍背負壓力的話會傷害身體，長此以往，對身體健康也會造成損害。

中和消極人群

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check.

與難相處的人打交道會令大多數人感到沮喪和疲憊。高情商的人在和消極人群的交流過程中能剋制自己的情緒。

They identify their own emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground.

高情商的人能清楚辨別自己的情緒，避免發怒和沮喪以免火上澆油。同時，他們也能考慮難相處的人的立場並能夠找出雙方的共同話題和相處之道。

Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.

甚至在事態已完全失控時，高情商的人對消極人群的觀點也會持保留態度，不會讓他或她影響自己的心態。

不苛求完美

Emotionally intelligent people won't set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn't exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible.

高情商的人不會把完美當成自己追逐的目標，因為他們知道完美是不存在的。犯錯是人類的本性。

When perfection is your goal, you're always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you've achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.

當你追求完美時，你總是會受到挫敗感的困擾，這種挫敗感會讓你放棄或減少努力。最後你只會把時間都浪費在哀嘆那些沒能做成和本應做好的事情上，而不是繼續前進，並對自己做成的事情和未來將要實現的事情而感到興奮。

斷開連接

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors.

高情商的又一表現就是學會定期斷開連接，因為這將有助於你控制壓力並活在當下。如果你每周七天、每天24小時隨時準備迎接工作，你將讓自己遭受壓力的持續轟炸。

好心情不受外界影響

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they've done, they won't let anyone's opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.

當你的快樂和滿足感源自他人對你的評價時，你就不再是能掌控自身幸福的主人了。高情商的人對自己所做的事感覺良好，不會輕易受他人觀點或尖刻評論的影響。

雖然你不可能對他人的評價充耳不聞，但是你不必拿自己和其他人作比較，而且你可以對他人的觀點持保留態度。這樣的話，無論別人想什麼或做什麼，都無所謂，因為你的自我價值感源於內心。

這麼一看，賀涵還真是滿足了高情商幾乎所有的條件，他可以搞定難搞的人，不易動怒，可以輕鬆地控制自己的情緒，不會讓別人的評價影響自己的良好感覺，永遠向前看，隨時準備接納改變，難怪他在劇中要風得風要雨得雨。

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