★Post-traumatic growth｜After a traumatic event, there's nothing to fear anymore.  - Getting Clos

“It’s a very bad thing for a woman to face the worst that can happen to her, because after she’s faced the worst, she can’t even really fear anything again.” Inspirational Quotes from Margaret Mitchell, Gone With the Wind

There is nothing to fear anymore after a life-threatening event. If you are able to survive after a traumatic event, you will be stronger and braver than you ever before. There’s nothing to fear anymore. 

1) Don’t label yourself a victim role.

2) Do not take traumatic events as punishment but life challenges for growth or better chance. Every cloud has a silver lining. A coin has two sides. That’s very true. 

▲A Broken Psyche｜Self-Healing[1]｜Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)[2]

PTSD is a severe anxiety disorder which occurs when the victim is exposed to anything that results in psychological trauma.[3] The victim would re-experience the original trauma constantly through flashbacks or nightmares. The victim’s anxiety may flare up when something akin to the original trauma shows up.

How does the victim store terrible memories? How to refile those bad memories of the past?

Post-traumatic growth[4]｜“silver lining” of Trauma｜Post-traumatic Growth (PTG)

★There is nothing to lose or fear anymore.Helen Keller once said, “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”

A person’s confidence and inner strength grow as he/her triumphs over great hardship. A newfound sense of personal inner strength come into being after people defeat great troubles or life challenges. This is the answer. In this approach, hardship turns out to be life challenges or reminder from God rather than a punishment from God or the like.

For instance, those who end a terrible marriage with domestic violence earn the chance to have a better life for the next decades.

Post-traumatic growth is literally a radical positive change which happens after a major life crisis or traumatic event. To be more precisely, those who have suffered great trauma learn to live fuller lives with higher inner peace afterwards.

Post-traumatic growth (PTG) is a theory developed by psychologists Richard Tedeschi, PhD, and Lawrence Calhoun, PhD, in the mid-1990s. The theory asserts that people who endure psychological struggle often find positive changes and growth afterward. [5]

Those who overcome the biggest trouble in their life, they will gain courage and inner strength and they have a better capability to deal with frustration, defeat or unexpected problems.

Those who live through a traumatic event will earn the confidence that “If I am able to live through that, I can able to deal with other relatively trivial troubles in life for sure.”

For instance, if a traumatic event is ranked as a life crisis 10, daily trivial troubles are but ranked as crisis 0-6.

Benefits of trauma｜ “Silver lining” from a traumatic event[6]

How to transform a troublesome happening into a blessing or reminder from God? How to embrace a traumatic event with a positive or grateful interpretation?

▲Fix your mind on the idea of survival rather than victim….

Don’t take yourself a victim after experiencing a distressing, life-threatening event.

A traumatic event hurts a lot when there is a victim role within the event. When you label yourself as a victim, you will behave according to that label. It will reaffirm you the idea that you deserve to feel pain and sorrow for you are the one who is traumatized. Stop it. It’s called self-abuse and self-torture. Nobody can torture you more than self-torture.[7]

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is one of the effective talking treatments, which does help people speed up their recovery from PTSD. It helps correct your personal interpretation of any pain-induced events.

Once you consider your life experience as a tragedy, the victim role comes into being. Restless self-pity could be a totally destructive power by seeing your life as a tragic story. Give any traumatic events a rather positive interpretation would be the only cure.

When you fix your mind on the idea of survival rather than the victim, you would consider your situation as being saved and blessed. You will be grateful for being a survivor.

According to the Post-Traumatic Growth Research Group at UNC Charlotte, sometimes, people develop a sense that “new opportunities have emerged from the struggle, opening up possibilities that were not present before.”

A traumatic event may distract a person’s original life track. For instance, a woman who ends an unhappy marriage is given the rights and chance to have a better love relationship for the rest of her life.[8]

★There’s positive meaning hiding in the traumatic events. No suffering, no change and no growth. The blessing of struggle takes away your timidity, fear and safety nets. It’s the chance which forces you to grow up and conquer your fears. Generally, people put the public eye behind after a traumatic event.

People come to realize that if they can overcome a big trouble, there’s nothing to fear anymore. Consequently, the inner strength comes into being. The inner voices say “if I lived through that, I can handle anything.” A trauma does teach you how strong you are and how much you can bear.

You learn to cope with frustration, loss, pain, betrayal or unexpected disaster with stronger or relatively peaceful mind.

★Life crisis is inevitable for everyone. It’s just people hide their tears from you.

★Hard times is a great timing to realize how deeply the loved ones care for you. You may appreciate the relationships more than ever by trusting them more and developing deeper connection and bonds with the loved ones. It also a great timing for you to see through the so-called frenemies.

★Conclusion: Stronger interpersonal relationship makes people live through traumatic events. That’s why people say love overcomes anything. However, without the mental support of the loved ones, some fail to live through a life crisis.

★Transform traumatic events into life challenges or God’s reminder/test.  

★Rebirth after trauma….

Surviving a severe trauma such as car accident or cancer does represent a second chance to rebuild a person’s life, which usually titled as rebirth.

The event of trauma may act as the impetus to lead people into a new life track. They will be more conscious of time, life values and survival. They will have better self-discipline and guard their principle better than before. Some will channel their pain by putting themselves fully into work or studies or certain target.

★The Blessing of Struggle makes people humble.

★You are the exclusive one who can rescue yourself. It’s a great way for you to stop being dependent.

Turning to the Positive｜Personal Growth After Trauma

★Can Negative Events Make Us Stronger?

Some people get stuck in an emotionally-devastating event for decades even for the rest of their life. Nevertheless, researches show that many people secure psychological growth and positive psychological changes resulting from highly stressful or painful events.

A traumatic event or trauma can potentially destroy a person’s self-esteem or self-confidence. Nevertheless, strong mental support from the close ones following the event are the key predictors of psychological recovery and post-traumatic Growth.

A traumatic event may be the chance for you to rewrite the history on your interpersonal relationships, including love relationships.

In other words, if the Trauma sufferers can’t have efficient mental support during the hard times, the person will endure highly helplessness, loneliness and even sense of betrayal.